There are many myths that are common regarding sexual violence, assault, and harassment. Sadly, these myths may severely impact the survivors of sexual assault, harassment, or abuse and also affects the behavior of the friends and family of survivors. Please be on the lookout for these common myths. Myth: Sexual assault is an act of lust and passion that can’t be controlled. Fact: Sexual assault is about power and control and is not motivated by sexual gratification.  Myth: If a victim of sexual assault does not fight back, they must have thought the assault was not that bad or Read More
My ex GF (a derby veteran) and I started skating and I loved it, but when we’d go to derby practices together she’d publicly tell people details about our intimate life, or make me the brunt of sexually charged jokes. When I confronted her about it she told me that’s just how derby is, everybody does it. I told her that was not my experience and I hadn’t had the experience with anybody else. She told me I was too sensitive and it’s just part of the game and that she didn’t have a filter and I should know that Read More
A few weeks ago, I was OPRing a home team game in a convention center with a crappy floor. Rather than being concerned with avoiding pitfalls in the OPR lane while skating or looking for back blocks, my attention was constantly drawn to two men leaning up against a wall near turn 3 just outside the track. The first time comment they made sounded like “nice ass.” I ignored it because I wasn’t sure it was about me and I was too busy looking for a multiplayer block to worry about what some guy in the crowd was saying. A Read More
Elizabeth C. sent us two stories, which we have split into two separate posts. This is the second. Read her first story here. [PART 2] In the second, I was dating an official and one evening when he was drunk, he punched me. Right in the gut. Because he was mad at me because I didn’t want to be around him while he was being a drunk arsehole. I was silent about it because I was worried that it would affect my staffing. After all, he had been officiating longer than me and since we traveled together… Then I ended Read More
I have dealt with multiple issues within derby, some stem from being a woman, some from being a woman ref, some from being a person. I have been told that I couldn’t use the ref room because it’s for men only. I have gotten dick pics from other officials. But two instances… [STORY 1] The first occurred when officiating a game in NY. Before the game, a referee complained about the grapes having seeds, walked up to me while changing, and spit them in my face. This was the first time that I had ever met him, so there was Read More
I’ve been involved as an official in roller derby for about six seasons. My first season I was reffing a game that had a super small locker room (though the venue had actual locker rooms for skaters, the only area left was a little hallway for officials). This area provided very tight quarters for seven referees. I was the only woman on a crew of six men. So when I saw one of the referees’ balls, I figured it was an accident. Only, the next time I worked with him, I saw his balls again. Being new to the sport, Read More
I’m now retired. When I was skating, there was a skater who thought it was ok to grab other women’s breasts, and would often flash her breasts at practice and laugh. I have a sense of humor, but there are ways to make jokes without flashing boobs or grabbing others. I didn’t feel comfortable speaking to her directly because she was in a leadership position in our league. I spoke to one of our mediators instead, and was told I should just laugh it off and not be so prudish. My concerns that were supposed to be private got relayed Read More
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My name is Fury Duty and I am many things. I am lawyer and a roller derby referee. I am a daughter and a friend. I am a person with mental illness. And I am a two-time sexual assault survivor. In 2013, a member of my roller derby community raped me. For the past two years, I have been sharing my stories with anyone who will listen. I shared when no one listened. I shared to my few friends who did listen. I shared in the face of ostracism and social media bullying. I shared when it wasn’t a politically Read More