I have dealt with multiple issues within derby, some stem from being a woman, some from being a woman ref, some from being a person. I have been told that I couldn’t use the ref room because it’s for men only. I have gotten dick pics from other officials. But two instances… [STORY 1] The first occurred when officiating a game in NY. Before the game, a referee complained about the grapes having seeds, walked up to me while changing, and spit them in my face. This was the first time that I had ever met him, so there was Read More
I’ve been involved as an official in roller derby for about six seasons. My first season I was reffing a game that had a super small locker room (though the venue had actual locker rooms for skaters, the only area left was a little hallway for officials). This area provided very tight quarters for seven referees. I was the only woman on a crew of six men. So when I saw one of the referees’ balls, I figured it was an accident. Only, the next time I worked with him, I saw his balls again. Being new to the sport, Read More
I’m now retired. When I was skating, there was a skater who thought it was ok to grab other women’s breasts, and would often flash her breasts at practice and laugh. I have a sense of humor, but there are ways to make jokes without flashing boobs or grabbing others. I didn’t feel comfortable speaking to her directly because she was in a leadership position in our league. I spoke to one of our mediators instead, and was told I should just laugh it off and not be so prudish. My concerns that were supposed to be private got relayed Read More
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My name is Fury Duty and I am many things. I am lawyer and a roller derby referee. I am a daughter and a friend. I am a person with mental illness. And I am a two-time sexual assault survivor. In 2013, a member of my roller derby community raped me. For the past two years, I have been sharing my stories with anyone who will listen. I shared when no one listened. I shared to my few friends who did listen. I shared in the face of ostracism and social media bullying. I shared when it wasn’t a politically Read More