It was well known in my league that a vet skater and her husband were swingers. That was the excuse given anytime her husband made advances on other league members. “That’s just how he is.” After practice, I was kneeling on a bench and talking to another league member when I felt someone caressing my ankle. Alarmed, I turned around, and it’s that guy. He looks surprised that I look as if I’m about to hit him. “Chill out. It’s just me.” I left without saying anything, but feeling like I needed to shower for reasons other than skating for Read More
To the person who shared their story with us today but doesn’t want it posted publicly – thank you for trusting us.
We see you. We support you. We believe you.
This post originally appeared on Jabber’s Facebook page on April 6, 2017; in it, she references Punchy O’s post, posted here on March 29, 2018. This is reprinted here with Jabber’s permission. Rumors are how things get super screwed up. Has anyone even thought of reaching out to me to see what I actually want? Nah. That would be logical. I’m sure I’ll catch most of the fallout, though. To be clear: I had NOTHING to do with Rat’s decision about Dell. I had no idea anything was even happening til the email in February (which I then left alone Read More
After the Derby Central article about sexual violence was published, there were rumors on my league (Rat City) that one of our officials – Dell from Hell – had been accused of sexual assault. My knowledge is second-hand, and we were told very little because of confidentiality, but the league was told that he had been accused a few years ago of assaulting another official and WFTDA was involved. WFTDA “reprimanded” him with a list of tasks to be completed and allowed him to return to officiating. The official who was assaulted quit and, as far as I know, has Read More
Suppose a friend of yours comes to you and tells you that they have been harassed or assaulted by someone in roller derby. Perhaps you know this person. Perhaps he is a friend of yours. Your natural inclination may be to defend him. “But he’s never done anything like that to me!” Or perhaps your first thought may be to rationalize his behavior away. “Well, he was drunk–and you know how he gets.” Before you say anything, please stop. Listen to your friend. Stop. Think. And then take the advice from blogger sleazethezebra, who published this article in December 2014 Read More
Sometimes we laugh because it’s the only way not to cry. One blogger made us laugh with a parody research article that reveals that Amount of ‘allowable harassment’ is directly proportional to skating prowess and derby fame Some humdingers include: “If you are a mid-range jammer of a great team, then you can get away with sending some unsolicited dick pics to other members of the derby community without any real consequences.” As well as: “These results were surprising to us, as we previously thought roller derby was somehow magically different from other sports or the rest of the world.” Read More
Yesterday, the WFTDA, MRDA, and JRDA published a statement of anti-abuse that ended in a call to action. What we have not done is clearly communicate that exclusion, abuse, harassment, and discrimination are not tolerable. It is time to do so. To our friends who have been made to feel marginalized, or unsure of your place in the sport of roller derby, you are absolutely valued and wanted. To those of you who are survivors, we believe you. While many in our community have extolled these organizations for visibly recognizing the issue and taking action, others are left with a Read More
This is my story, word for word, from this piece: www.derbycentral.net/2018/01/roller-derby-has-a-sexual-assault-problem-and-we-need-to-talk-about-it. Posting it here in support of this site and everything it stands for. Roller derby, sit down for a second. We need to talk. It’s taken me eight years to write down what I’m about to say. Not because I’ve forgotten what happened to me or because it doesn’t affect me. I’ve waited because I didn’t think my story was worthy of reporting, and lacked the bravery and self worth to say something. I feared the things they’d say. “That’s just what happens at after parties.” “It was probably Read More
I am a skater at a small league. We were always said to be a ladies team but as I went into fresh meat with a number of new females and to our surprise, males. Most of which were fine. One much older man, from the start was not like the rest. He only talked to females, even though other men were present. I always felt uncomfortable skating with him, most did. One session we were pracicting whips in a pace line. We were not to hold on to each other in the line but for whatever reason he insisted Read More
Parties in my league mean lots of of drinking and partying at a local bar sponsor. One night a very drunk skater from a different team in the league decided I had stolen her drink (I didn’t) and she rushed up to me grabbing my throat and squeezing while demanding I find her missing drink. This person has a history of damaging property and making others uncomfortable when drunk, and people in the league usually laugh it off. I played nice and didn’t complain about the incident, because I didn’t want her mad at me next time she was drinking Read More