Anonymous: Southern USA

Parties in my league mean lots of of drinking and partying at a local bar sponsor. One night a very drunk skater from a different team in the league decided I had stolen her drink (I didn’t) and she rushed up to me grabbing my throat and squeezing while demanding I find her missing drink. This person has a history of damaging property and making others uncomfortable when drunk, and people in the league usually laugh it off. I played nice and didn’t complain about the incident, because I didn’t want her mad at me next time she was drinking Read More


Anna-Ellen L: Northeast USA

I have experimented with many different ways of processing the trauma I’ve experienced in an abusive relationship, and the trauma experienced when entities designed to protect people failed. I’m choosing to share some of the pieces I have written due to recently hearing about public responses regarding sexual assault and abuse which occurred within the roller derby community. Sharing this also seems timely as one year ago I had to leave my roller derby home team to put an end to harassment from the person who abused me. Names of people and specific teams are going to be left out. Read More


Elizabeth C – Northeast USA (part 2)

Elizabeth C. sent us two stories, which we have split into two separate posts. This is the second. Read her first story here. [PART 2] In the second, I was dating an official and one evening when he was drunk, he punched me. Right in the gut. Because he was mad at me because I didn’t want to be around him while he was being a drunk arsehole. I was silent about it because I was worried that it would affect my staffing. After all, he had been officiating longer than me and since we traveled together… Then I ended Read More


Elizabeth C – Northeast USA (part 1)

I have dealt with multiple issues within derby, some stem from being a woman, some from being a woman ref, some from being a person. I have been told that I couldn’t use the ref room because it’s for men only. I have gotten dick pics from other officials. But two instances… [STORY 1] The first occurred when officiating a game in NY. Before the game, a referee complained about the grapes having seeds, walked up to me while changing, and spit them in my face. This was the first time that I had ever met him, so there was Read More


Anonymous: Northeast USA

I’m now retired. When I was skating, there was a skater who thought it was ok to grab other women’s breasts, and would often flash her breasts at practice and laugh. I have a sense of humor, but there are ways to make jokes without flashing boobs or grabbing others. I didn’t feel comfortable speaking to her directly because she was in a leadership position in our league. I spoke to one of our mediators instead, and was told I should just laugh it off and not be so prudish. My concerns that were supposed to be private got relayed Read More


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