My ex GF (a derby veteran) and I started skating and I loved it, but when we’d go to derby practices together she’d publicly tell people details about our intimate life, or make me the brunt of sexually charged jokes. When I confronted her about it she told me that’s just how derby is, everybody does it. I told her that was not my experience and I hadn’t had the experience with anybody else. She told me I was too sensitive and it’s just part of the game and that she didn’t have a filter and I should know that about her. She was a sexual assault survivor herself… I will never understand but it really hurt. If I ever came home and tried to talk to her about the stuff she talked about in public she’d get upset and tell me she didn’t want to talk about it and didn’t know why I was bringing it up again.